About Marriage and the Cynic in me

Nice sunday morning, and I am sitting in my nice pink Bangalore apartment, and I suddenly decide i want to write! Blabberwocky wrote in my comments that she wants to see me writing some more, and i kinda enjoy not disappointing people ( A very common human syndrome, i should say. We all try to please everyone as much as we can. Period.) But i am not a morning person, and thoughts dont come easily to me at nine on a lazy sunday winter morning. At least comprehensive thoughts dont.



Ok, my roomie, a certain bespectacled Miss Rao, with a jiggly belly (as jiggly as my bum) made a random comment that i am a cynic. And that it shows in my writing! 'Now does it?' says me.
'Oh yes, ma'am! try writing about marriage and all your cynicism will come right out!'.
Maybe she is right. You tell. Or dont tell.



See, there's a checklist for all of us, the moment we are born. Its on EVERYONE'S mind, but mind you! NOBODY talks about it, and they'll be most displeased that i called this sacred concept 'The Checklist'. The first in 'The Checklist' is 'THE SCHOOL'. Something that could have been lots of fun, had parents not been so nosey about what homework the teacher gave, how much marks did the first boy in class get, and why didnt we get that much. Talk about slaughtering the confidence in a kid!



Then comes 'COLLEGE'. But we are not going to dwell on this, because i am here to discuss the next thing on 'The Checklist', and i dont want to ramble. So we skip three or four (or HowManyEver years it take you to finish your damn education). And come to the point where we assume you have finished college.



Once you finish college, and get a job, the MOST unfortunate thing happens to you. Parents get fidgety, and relatives get impatient and neighbours rub hands impatiently. Why? because
'The Checklist' goes like this:



1. Shcool (ticked)

2. College(ticked)

3. Job(ticked)

4. MARRIAGE (not ticked yet!!!)



and its a function of most human beings to keep ticking the 'to do's in 'The Checklist', so that they can die in peace and go to heaven. There is 'NO PEACE' until your and all your offsprings' checklist is complete. And people hate 'NO PEACE'.



So my dear, marriage isnt something that is made in heaven. Its more like a 'To Do' in your parents' 'Checklist'. And its a little like horse breeding, seeing as how they look for a healthy, young mate of the same breed(read caste), so that the children are all born pure bred, and strong and healthy like mommy and daddy. Interbreeding isnt really the most encouraged form of breeding, though sometimes parents to give in to it, if they are not so blinded by the rules of 'The Checklist'.



Yes i am a cynic. I might have a pink house with a plant with pink leaves, and pink curtains to match with the pink apartment and the pink plant, but I am a cynic alright. Girl, were you right about this!



My Tea has come, and so I am going to nurse my thoughts, and sip on 'Red Label'. Ritu, is the soup ready for breakfast?

Places too many

This is my first blog. This is not my first thought. But it still special because an Html page is different from a randomness beating around in the head. So lets talk about me. An easy topic for the authoress, though one of the many things she knows only vaguely about. Actually no, lets also please involve the cities i lived in.

I was born in a desert floating on oil. Brought up in a city with watery skies, and three generations of a deep rooted family who had missed my birth in the far away land, but didnt miss anything else. I painted at two, spoke at three (after therapy, of course), and somewhere down the line, under the disapproving glances of the teacher and my young pretty mother, started preferring my left hand. the world's largest minority. Am i boring you? Ah well, its my page. And this about as interesting as my life gets. Trust me.

I here that my mum cried when i got my first glasses at 6, and told her i never knew trees were this green. Talk about a bad Hindi movie dialogue. I was a drama queen even at 6!

My mum DIDNT cry when i left house at 18 to move down South to study in a college with ostentatiously high tution fees. But I cried. Bawled all the way from the droopy city of my childhood to this new shiny town which i decided to hate right away. Did i already mention the drama queen part? Aw well, i warned you.

I hated the town for about 8 months, then decided that the weather here wasnt too bad. Add 6 months, and i was already in love with the campus. Now i swear by Pecos.

I am working now. The last year saw my moving and living in 3 cities. Of course i moped, and of course i didnt initially see these as very pleasant thing happening to me. I can sometimes hate change. But i did get to see Sharukh khan's house. And i did read 'Such a long journey' over apples and coffee, just because i moved to this wonderfully throbbing city. To get the feel of the city. and boy o boy, did I get it. Ans not only through the book.
I did move back to Bangalore again, but Bombay has chosen to sit in my fondest memories and not move. Good. I like it that way.

Right now i am in a country where every mountain top was once a shooting locale for a Khan movie. Thankfully the Khans found other places to romp around in, leaving me in peace to enjoy the prettiness of the country. It really is pretty. Solitude and nature becomes me. And a good bank balance. And Converse shoes. Here comes my first smiley...... :)


Sometimes i think I moved a lot of cities. Then i think about all those kids who moved school almost every year. I went to only two in my life(and then too, the first one doesnt count seeing as how i only went to lkg there). Sometimes I think I've seen it all. And i want to crawl inside me and STAY. Sometimes i want to give me a rap in the head for being such a bum, and i want to move a lot more and see a lot more places. Am i contradicting myself? Told you that i know me only vaguely.


Apart from this, and a few other minor and major mishaps, and screwups, and judgemental errors and accidents, my life has been pretty ok. The cities are doing fine too. :)